🧕 Why I Left Gossip Behind – And Found Peace in Silence 🤫

🌙 Assalamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullah, dear sisters and brothers,

I want to share something deeply personal with you today. Something that changed my heart, my conversations, and even the people I surrounded myself with. This is my journey of leaving gossip (gheebah) and backbiting behind – and finding a much more peaceful version of myself, by the mercy of Allah 🤍.

💭 The Old Me: Gossip Was Just “Normal”

I used to think that talking about others behind their back was normal – after all, everyone around me did it. Whether in family gatherings, friends’ chats, or online – we’d discuss what someone wore, said, or did. But I didn’t realize what it was doing to my heart and akhirah.

Then one day, I read this verse from the Qur’an:

“And do not backbite one another. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead? You would detest it.”
— Surah Al-Hujurat (49:12)

I was shocked. That’s how serious it is? It hit me hard. From that day, I couldn’t enjoy gossip anymore. I felt guilty. That verse kept echoing in my heart.

🎯 What I Did To Stop Gheebah

• Step 1: I asked Allah sincerely in dua, “Ya Allah, purify my tongue and my heart. Guide me away from what displeases You.”
• Step 2: I started staying silent when others began gossiping. I didn’t correct them at first – just stayed quiet and made dhikr in my heart.
• Step 3: I politely left groups or changed topics. I’d say things like: “Let’s not talk about her like this,” or “We never know what someone’s going through.”
• Step 4: I filled my free time with beneficial knowledge – podcasts, Islamic YouTube lectures, tafsir series. It helped a lot!
• Step 5: I made new friends who uplift me – people who talk about Allah, not others. ☝️

❤️ What Changed in My Life

Wallahi, the changes were unbelievable:

• 🧘‍♀️ I felt less anxious and more peaceful
• 🕌 My salah became more focused – no heaviness in heart
• 💌 My relationships improved – even silent ones with Allah
• 📖 I began loving good silence – just me and Qur’an sometimes

The Prophet ﷺ said: “Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him speak good or remain silent.” — [Bukhari & Muslim]

📌 Personal Advice from My Heart

Backbiting is like poison we drink ourselves while thinking it hurts others. You might not realize it, but gheebah eats away your hasanat (good deeds) like termites on wood.

Next time you're about to say something, ask yourself: "Would I say this if they were sitting in front of me?" If not, it’s better to stay silent. 🤐

🤝 Let’s build a culture of clean hearts and tongues – together. Start with yourself. And trust me, it’s worth it.

💡 Final Reflection

When I stopped gossiping, I didn’t just protect others – I protected myself. I felt closer to Allah, more in control of my soul, and more respectful toward others – even in their absence.

Silence isn't emptiness – it's a shield. And sometimes, it's worship.

— Your sister in Islam, A fellow traveler on the path of Taqwa 🕊️

📜 Disclaimer

This blog is created with the intention to share Islamic knowledge, personal reflections, and inspirational reminders. While every effort has been made to ensure that the information provided is based on authentic sources, I am not a scholar (Alim). Please consult qualified Islamic scholars for any serious religious matters or fatawa (Islamic rulings).

💡 If you find any mistake or misinformation, kindly let me know so I can correct it – may Allah reward you for your sincerity. 🤝

May Allah ﷻ guide us all to the straight path and accept our humble efforts. Ameen 🤲